Posted By: Leon Davis
When a teen reads a lesbian personals on an online dating site, he is immensely puzzled, and to some extent shocked if was not aware of the same sex activity. It seems strange or even bizarre to a young adult just on the stepping stone for discovering human sexuality when he finds out that some women love and have sex with women. A fact outside the purview of normal human behavior. Sex dating lesbians and gay defy human biology, which evolved for male, and female to have sexual relationship and not female to female or male to male sexual relationship where reproduction is not possible.
But we must understand that sex is a pleasure giving activity also. The pleasure is an incentive for human to copulate to reproduce, since reproduction is the strongest instinct for survival and the most basic as designed by the evolutionary process that governs sum total of life on the planet.
In earlier times, lesbian sex was a closeted affair since homosexuality was much maligned by the society then. Out activity is still looked down upon and the relationship as termed queer or bizarre and caries a social stigma in many a society. But in sexually liberated society tolerance is much greater and increasing - thanks to wider perspective that is being generated in modern times. Hence, greater freedom of speech and the greater tolerance for one’s expression of way of life is changing the world for lesbians as is evident from the proliferation of lesbian dating sites and online personals ads on the Internet and various publications, forum and boards that have gained permissibility in our society.
Coming back to the point of why women are attracted to women and engage in sexual activity with each other is still a matter of a large contentious debate. But the fact is that homosexuality is there since centuries and is here to stay. The crux of the matter is that human express love towards each other for companionship, emotional stability and as a rule, for dependability. All this and in true biological sense even the institution or marriage or complete pairing for life should appear bizarre (though not as much), since man is a gregarious animal. Therefore, expression of love between person of same sex is quite understood although still quite queer in a male dominated and male centered society. What is difficult to digest is same sex activity - as is apparent from what I have written above.
Let me make one thing very clear before I proceed further. Lesbian romance and sex is as erotic, appealing, and satisfying as is the expression among straight couples – women and men. The feeling (among lesbians) of possiveness and emotional attachment - with love, hate, and jealousy thrown in - is of same intensity as it is among straight relationships. The rationalization for sexual activity between same sex persons or woman having sex with woman (lesbian) - relevant to context here - is that here, sex is for pleasure and pleasure only as it is obvious that reproduction is not possible.
In every human sexual chemistry is dominant that gradually matures from birth to adult hood and it is this chemical interactivity that gives rise to sexual instinct that is essential for reproduction and hence survival of the species. The chemical build is expressed in humans in form of sexual tension that is only released by indulgence in sex so much classified or termed as climax or orgasm.
If lesbian sex activates human sex hormones and triggers a release of sexual tension build up, then the same sex activity becomes more understandable. And this is the case where in lesbian sex delivers this - hence the prevalence. Sex without climax or orgasmic delight is rarely meaningful and becomes just a reproductive activity. Another factor that can play a role in lesbian or same sex relationship is hormonal instances where imbalance or some chemical aberration can give rise to attraction towards same sex. Certain emotional causes and childhood instances of sexual abuse can also lead to same sex predilections. A scientist in the field of human sexuality can elaborate this much better.
Last but least same sex activity should be tolerated in totality, though not as encouragement to straight men and women. As long as an activity does not damage the society and any life form including humans then each to his or her way of life. The percentage of same sex loving humans is relatively small and there is no dirth of people on the planet to reproduce for the survival of human species.