The acronym BDSM stands for Bondage and Discipline (B&D), Dominance and Submission (D&S), and Sadism and Masochism or Sadomasochism this by all means is the most accepted definition.

BDSM to many people means violence and torture in some kind of a dark room or cellar for a weird and eerie type of twisted sexual pleasure attained by lifestyle seekers who are sick or are on the edge of mental illness.  

With the coming of online dating site on Internet and with growing Net user base day by day, more and more people are coming across varied sexual orientation of humans which so far where either closeted or ignored by the straight society as repulsive or aberrant, and not worth taking a peak into. 

Before we move to BDSM Dating or BDSM sex let us understand this. All mature women and men have a child hidden behind the veil of maturity. Infantile instincts in an adult being are in a state of suppression and which time and again needs expression to obtain a release. The release in case of BDSM is more sexual in nature and less on relationship. Infantile instincts embed dominance, suppression and a bearing of pain experienced due to abuse or instance in childhood.   

The climax or orgasm is obtained by indulgence in a play by playing the role of dominance or submission, which are directly related to bondage and masochism. Here one is the oppressor and other is the oppressed. The chain and whip represent oppression, and the (usually) tied person in bondage is the oppressed. This is nowhere cruel or torturously painful as an outsider may imagine. The degree of pain inflected is within bearable limits and the act of physically restraining the person by rope, chain, or handcuffs is done with keeping safety in full consideration. This can be very subtle and highly erotic, as various body parts are stimulated by tickling with a brush or feather or controlled whip lashing. BDSM roles and sex is done mutually and as desired by participants.

The number of participants may be two or more as in group sex the common denominator being eroticism and sexual release.

BDSM sex dating activities are performed by persons from a wider walk of life then one can imagine, from varied lifestyle seekers, and humans of all physical and sexual orientations. Participants are, in most cases, normal well-adjusted, much respected people in their society. There many BDSM dating sites or sites that have a BDSM category. These online dating sites carry personals ads of people indulging in various BDSM variants. Go join make a match or matches and indulge in this activity if your heart desires and experience satisfaction.